To Begin....
Posted by ~Ray @ 2007-10-23 16:16:48
Well to begin I just wanted to say that my label is Mordan (obviously this is a pen-name and I also have other aliases that I go by) and I hope that doesn't sound like I'm full of myself... The reason that I undergo so many aliases is partially because I'm not out (to most people). and also because when ever I join a new social website sometimes I switch my user name to something else for dilate (a2jude22). But a little about me: I'm 23 years old living in Ann Arbor and of African decent. I'm currently unemployed (not by choice) and not currently in school so I've got a decent be of measure to blog. To tell you the truth. I never really thought of having an actual communicate partially because I thought that is was a bit of a expend of time and also didn't see the point at first. But come up I have found myself bloggin on my little compose on myspace so hey why not make a larger change for my thoughts. Another reason for this actual communicate summon is because my myspace compose is one that many of my straight friends and family see and where I can't really share my deep feelings (mainly about my sexuality). Because yes I am gay if you didn't already catch it from the "I'm not out" move. ;-) So in a way I'm living two different lives which sucks but it works for me and no one (hopefully) gets hurt. Other gay people be drink on guys that are in the confine as "not being true to themselves" and " not embracing who they are". Well first of all gay is not "who" I'm am but rather "what" I am. It's my sexuality. I'm a gay man. My label is not Gay. And it's not my identity. And also gay or homosexuality is such a vast category of different kinds of attractions and mannerisms so it pisses me off when folks say someone is "acting gay". And even though I understand greatly that sexuality as a whole is a very broad concept sometimes it bothers me when many a gay male tries to fit the one "excepted" mannerism of a gay male. You experience what I mean.... Acting gay. Or. Acting effeminate. That is the age-old skewed perception of what a gay person is supposed to act desire. All of us are supposed to act likefemales dress in bright/tight clothing dye our hair put on eye-liner and have nothing but "girl-friends" that we desire to go the mall with. Oh yeah and we're sissies! Well. I can tell you for a fact that I'm none of those things. I don't feature tight clothing talk with a lisp change form my arms. strut desire I'm on a catwalk wear eyeliner snap my fingers when talking wear pink comprehend to Madonna religiously (or Britney Spears. Paris Hilton etc) and I don't hang out with JUST GIRLS. So in society's mind. I'm not gay. But if society knew what I was doing with it's sons then it would probably change it's mind. ;-) But on a serious note: I am very tired of this flawed perception that we have to act the gay stereotype to "be who we are" and have to flaunt our sexualities and shove it in everyone's faces. Honestly who needs to know that we are gay except for the guys we get with or want tolove? You don't see straight guys walking around the street with buttons and pins that remind everyone that they are straight. And you don't see them marching in the street in parades that look desire carnivals. Don't get me do by you probably evaluate I've forgotten about the whole oppressive nature of the straight male. I haven't forgotten but arouse we only make it worse when we put ourselves out there like that. I mean come on we decide the most tackie in your face loud and obnoxious ways to make sure that people experience that we are gay. And frankly. I'm sure a lot of populate including potential "allies" would be turned off by such behavior. What behavior you ask? I mean all the costumes the half nakedness the fishnet the overt piercings the slave and master uniforms the skirts and dresses the outlanding hairstyles the loud and constant accommodate and dance music all of the spectacles that adjoin gay grow can be a little a little off-putting. See examples below:
All right you get an idea of what I'm talking about. I mean create by mental act how annoying it would be if all the straight people got up one day to celebrate being straight not to mention how scary that would be!But you know if you evaluate about it that way then you can see why people might get bothered with us when we walk in the fashion that we do all the measure. Gay pride. What does that mean really? I comprehend it all the time: "I'm proud to be gay. I'm proud to be gay". But no one really seems to ever think of.[ADVERTHERE]Related article:
http://mordansdailyrant.blogspot.com/2007/09/to-begin.html
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